How to communicate with other people so that they remember you with a smile
Take care and appreciate all those people with whom youlife collapses. A good relationship is ultimately a good life. If this is not so, it's time to change something. What exactly, says business coach, the author of bestsellers on the psychology of communication, Jim Fannin.
If we collect all the acquaintances in our entire life,get a huge list. Parents, friends, colleagues. Classmates, teachers and coaches. Children, neighbors and husbands. Already a lot. But there is still a huge part of the list: a doctor, a hairdresser, a seller who has bought bread for many years. Those with whom you met on a trip last summer, friends on interests and in social networks.
Each of these people plays their ownan important role, everyone makes your life happier. And this huge personal database eventually turns out to be the most important acquisition, the most important value in your life.
Take care and appreciate all those with whom life confronts you. A good relationship is ultimately a good life.If this is not so, it's time to change something. It's time to make sure that all your relationships are good. Do not take anything as a matter of course. There are people who are the first on your list. This means they need to be seen as often as possible.It often happens that we keep them in mind, remember them and think that in this way our connection remains strong. But meanwhile, relations can not be called relations.
Look carefully: what kind of relationship needs repair and correction? Where is restart needed? What kind of relationship needs to be given a new push? Where do I press delete?
Call up old school friends, have a picnicwith children and their friends, suggest a walk in the evening in the park to those with whom you can only see in the working environment. And go on vacation for new experiences and new friends!
To keep the relationship and to always remember you with a smile, Jim Fannin offers 30 simple principles of communication.
- Starting with someone talking, tell yourself: "I would not want to be anywhere now, only here, in this place!" People will feel it.
- Compliments. And once again compliments.
- Avoid always giving at the end of a conversation your point of view or comments.
- Do not take yourself too seriously!
- Ask great questions and you will receive great answers.
- Be attentive to the melody of the conversation. Notice in time when the tone begins to change from positive to negative.
- Speak and act calmly, and your interlocutor will reflect you like in a mirror. Avoid sarcasm if you want to joke.
- Talk about what will bring joy to others.
- Reflect in the mirror the joy of others.
- Avoid "selling" yourself, your career and life.
- If someone wants to change the subject of the conversation, do not interfere.
- Never speak like a victim or judge.
- Very carefully talk about sex, religion and politics.
- Know about the dreams of the interlocutor and take care of them.
- Avoid spreading and listening to gossip.
- Lift the person up, and do not lower it down.
- 90 seconds! Exactly how much must pass before you express that you do not like or with what you do not agree.
- Always in conversation, look for common ground and proceed from the fact that every action had good intentions.
- Do not interrupt!
- Always say goodbye as if that's what you mean. Make a farewell warm and heartfelt.
- Avoid talking and talking behind your eyes. The gossip has long legs, and it is able to reach its main character, and even more so sooner or later it will reach you.
- Unspoken negative emotions will eventually turn into negative actions. Talk right away about what's bothering you.
- Smile, and even better - exchange smiles.
- When you notice that your interlocutor becomes too self-critical and scolds himself, do not boldly disagree with him!
- Mark good intentions of the interlocutor and thank for them.
- If you are discussing a question, talk about it simply and on business.
- Do not try to fill the pause.
- Always tell the truth. Dot.