How do husbands experience a divorce?
It is believed that a divorce is a painfulexperience equally for both women and men. How do husbands experience a divorce, what psychological characteristics of the experience of divorce can be distinguished from men?
Everyone knows that a man decides to divorceOnly in the case when he has a rear. Rarely, what a man decides to file for divorce, being in a fit of despair or under the influence of some emotion. As a rule, such a husband feels very confident after a divorce, as a hot dinner and freshly pressed shirts are waiting for him in the new house. If a man does not act as the initiator of a divorce, much less does not have a reliable rear behind him, then the attitude to the situation changes radically. The range of feelings that a man feels is usually very diverse and depends on how close the relationship between spouses was in marriage. Usually, most men experience the following:
- hatred (such men turn the life of their former spouses to hell, revenge them for their offended feelings);
- indifference (such men try to maintain a normal relationship with their former spouse);
- love (such men try to return their ex-wife, since they understand that they can not live without her).
Often these feelings follow one another,mix with each other, sometimes finishing the divorce process in the most unexpected way. Very often, a man first hates his ex-wife, then tries to return it in all sorts of ways, but as a result he resigns himself to the situation and maintains normal relations with his ex-wife. In any case, all this again confirms the fact that men are going through a divorce no less than women.
Psychological features of a divorced man
So, what is the husband after the divorce? Psychologists distinguish the following points that are typical for the behavior of a divorced man:
- Men are very worried about the divorce process. Most men after the divorce experience feelings of pain, loss, loss and disappointment, and most importantly, unlike women, are forced to hide it so as not to appear like a rag. Any parting is considered a painful trauma to the human psyche, so divorce is perceived by man as an acute and severe form of experience. Often during a divorce, men are visited by thoughts of suicide, and various colds and diseases are attached.
- Men try to avoid their loneliness. Alas, it is here that most men try to get into new relationships without having had time to free themselves from the burden of past relationships. As a rule, men are moved by the fear of being alone with themselves, as well as a sense of male inferiority. It often happens that a man hastily marries the first woman who got caught, just not to be left in loneliness alone.
- Men rush into all serious sins. About how husbands are going through a divorce, a lot of films have been shot and many books written that almost unanimously assert that the depression of a divorced man is always accompanied by alcohol and the removal of women. Naturally, all abuses only temporarily create the illusion of relief, bringing only a temporary sense of happiness. Moreover, it is in such situations that men often get drunk, lose their jobs and, as a result, personally degrade.
- Men begin to hate all women. Usually this happens to those men who do not believe that the wife has filed for divorce, and expect that she will come to her senses and return. When, after a few months, the desired does not take place, such a man begins to madly hate his wife and even revenge her. In the new relationship, such men behave harshly, place high demands and often find fault with their chosen ones. It is more difficult for them to build warm confidential relations with women, to marry again and have children.